Living Vicariously Through Our Kids: Adultery

Do you know anyone that values their children above their spouse? Let me ask this another way. Do you know anyone that is having an affair with their children? I’m not talking about sex here, I’m talking about value. Where, in the hierarchy of the world, do you place your kids and where is your spouse? If you immediately said “My kids come after my spouse”, because you think that is the right answer, put yourself in this scenario:

A madman with a gun has taken your home hostage and told you one person has to die. You get to choose who it will be and you can’t pick yourself. It has to be either your spouse or your only child. Who would you pick? It’s a tough question isn’t it?

It is a sad fact that I see parents putting their children above their own spouses. What brought on this rant, is the fact that one of my best friends told me flat out that his kids are first, parents second, and wife third! The way I read my Bible, he’s really got his priorities screwed up and as some may say, bass-ackwards. When you rank your family this way, you are going against God’s plan of marriage in which two people become one flesh, and one temple for His pleasure. If our body is His temple, and we neglect one part of it, (half of his temple) to tend to things we put above it, what does this say about our relationship with our heavenly father? Distance….. that’s what it says.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my son and I didn’t obviously understand the love of a father until my wife gave birth to him. But, she comes first, regardless of the circumstances; she takes precedent over all other human beings. Children are a blessing He gives to us and they represent the physical manifestation of the joining of their Mom and Dad’s souls. Did you ever think about it this way before? When you and your spouse have a child, you are showing the world physical evidence that you are joined together as one flesh, spiritually as God intended marriage to be. This is God’s plan to bring glory to Him through your children and what they represent.

Oh yeah, and the madman scenario may seem a bit far fetched to you. It actually sounds like some B Movie on late night tv... Or does it remind you of John 3:16?